Mentally Tough?

1) They don’t feel sorry for themselves 

They understand that complaining doesn’t make the situation better. They know that people won’t treat them they way they want to be treated, circumstances might not be ideal, and they will experience adversity; however, rather than complain about the negative aspects of their situation, they focus on what they want to happen and what they’re going to do about it. 

2) They don’t give people power over them They are not people pleasers. 

They are relentless in their pursuit of their passion and aren’t worried about what other people think. They give power to what they focus on, and if they waste their time focusing on the opinions of others, they lose sight of the things that will make them truly successful. 

3) They don’t avoid change They are always looking for ways to evolve. 

They believe that if they continue to give their best, their best will continue to get better over time. With the competition continuing to get bigger, stronger, faster, and smarter; it’s important to have the mindset to improve by learning from successes and failures. 

4) They don’t play small 

The mentally tough swing for the fences and know that it might mean striking out a few times (or many times). Their purpose for achieving greatness casts away their fear of failure. They refuse to tip-toe through life, they intend on creating a legacy for the future by making an impact in the here-and-now.

5) They don’t focus on things they can’t control 

They refuse to waste time focusing on things they can’t control because there is nothing they can do about it! They understand that the less control a person feels the more susceptible they are to making poor decisions, falling into bad habits, and crumbling under pressure.

Source: Justin Su’a, the Good Vibe

 

 

A tattoo is basically forever.

You should think pretty hard before you get one, because it’s largely an irreversible decision.

Just about every choice you make with your project and your career, though, doesn’t last forever. And the benefit of taking a risk is significantly higher than it is with a tattoo. A landing page, a pricing move, a bit of copy–they don’t last much more than a day, never mind a lifetime. Higher benefits, lower risk, what are you waiting for?

So go ahead and act as if your decisions are temporary. Because they are. Be bold, make mistakes, learn a lesson and fix what doesn’t work. No sweat, no need to hyperventilate.

Seth Godin

Be bold, make mistakes, learn a lesson and fix what doesn’t work.

You Open Your Heart

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

– Bob Marley

Carine Roitfeld’s Beauty Secret

“Come closer and I’ll whisper it into your ear. Shhhhhh… Carine Roitfeld’s most potent beauty elixir is timeless, enduring, free (did I mention free?), and completely intoxicating to everyone in her presence. Her beauty secret is called: Confidence. Not sold in a Sephora near you, I can assure you of that.”

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I Want to be a Roitfeld

Zidioanalyst

Occasionally, I stumble upon a little gem. Life then, for a little stretch of time, seems so much more radiant, hopeful, inspiring, exciting & fun fun fun!

So here it is: McSweeney’s.

A little something lifted:

“…My next dread is Mister or Miss Ziodoanalyst, young folks whose sacred mission in life is to psychoanalyze the oblivious masses, according to Zodiac signs, which is their “science.” The Zodioanalysts, as I have dubbed them, are more stroke-inducing than a diet of corn dogs dipped in ice cream with butter sticks on the side. The conversation goes down like this:

ZODIOANALYST: “Nour, you’re so… so… I can’t find the word for it! When is your birthday again?”

I lie and tell him it’s January 18th.

ZODIOANALYST: “I knew it! You’re such a Capricorn.”

For 30 minutes we bicker about whether or not I fit the Capricorn personality profile, until I tell him that I was really born in November.” – Nour Ali Youssef

5 Podcasts for the fun spiritual seeker

Interesting resources. Beware, for these may well change your perspective!

1. Alan Watts

To exercise economy of words here: the man knew what he was on about. Hinduism, Buddhism, Zen, you name it.

“Alan Wilson Watts (6 January 1915 – 16 November 1973) was a British philosopher, writer, and speaker, best known as an interpreter and populariser of Eastern philosophy for a Western audience.”

More on the Alan Watt’s Podcast here.

2. Swamiji’s Podcast

“In 1962, after many requests, Swami Jyotirmayananda came to the West to spread the knowledge of India. As founder of Sanatan Dharma Mandir in Puerto Rico (1962-1969), Swamiji rendered unique service to humanity through his regular classes, weekly radio lectures in English and in Spanish, and numerous TV appearances. In March 1969, Swamiji moved to Miami, Florida, and established the ashram that has become the center for the international activities of the Yoga Research Foundation.”

A new one I’ve found. I like it a lot so far. Click here for more.

3. The Hip Tranquil Chick Podcast

The modern, curious & generous approach to yoga, holistic lifestyle, traces of spirituality and mostly self-improvement. Fun!

Tranquility available here.

4. Liloumace

Exuberant, young & fearless, Lilou brings to her audience breath after breath of fresh air. So much insight, knowledge and wisdom to be gained though her interviews and content.

Best viewed on Lilou’s Youtube Channel

5. Joel Osteen Ministries

Uplifting. A very welcomed message of hope amidst this nay-saying world. Here.

Are Creative Types Messy People?

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Are creative types messy? Personally, I’m quite creative, if I do say so myself, and I am more than quite messy. I don’t replace stuff immediately after using them in order to not ruin my concentration on the task at hand. Stuff end up piling up all around and I usually dedicate some time to clearing up after everything is done and this clearing up process is sometimes quite cathartic.

I’ve long striven to be super-organised with everything around arranged in a tidy yet aesthetically pleasing manner. It’s been an uphill battle.

I came across, randomly, somewhere, that creative types are messy people and this got me curious. Quick googling came up with a bunch of hits and I find that this topic is not a novelty:

But contrarian voices can be heard in the wilderness. An anti-anticlutter movement is afoot, one that says yes to mess and urges you to embrace your disorder. Studies are piling up that show that messy desks are the vivid signatures of people with creative, limber minds…” – NY Times

Malcolm Gladwell says “… their lives and their brains, their brains are messy. Their imaginations are messy.  Why, because they don’t want to throw anything out.  Why don’t they want to throw anything out?  Because they believe on some level that there is always something of interest or value in whatever they encounter.  They know enough about how mysterious and serendipitous and unpredictable the creative process is that they realize that it’s dangerous to kind of make too hasty a judgment about the value of anything that they come across.

image: Sofia Coppola’s office back in the day (ca. The Virgin Suicides & the founding of MilkFed) | via matchbookmag {source}