Category Archives: love & relationships

You Open Your Heart

Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

– Bob Marley

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The Trick to Meditation

I am a lazy meditator and usually spend a little meditative moment at night right before I fall asleep, lying down, no less. Naturally, I don’t get past the ‘falling alseep’ stage of meditation and have been stuck here for much too long i.e. years. I do realise that the one thing getting in the way of advancing my practice is lack of determination. Well. Disgraceful much.

Recently, I’ve stumbled upon two little nuggets of inspiration which have served to nudge along my practice quite significantly:

1. That’s the whole secret of meditation, that you become the watcher.

You are aloof, just the watcher…simply seeing all that is happening around you. You are not the doer, you are the watcher, that’s the whole secret of meditation, that you become the watcher.” – Osho

Simple, obvious, but oh so profound. Right thing heard at the right time makes great impact. I came across the above randomly in one of Osho’s youtube videos (below).

In a similar vein, have you heard of the technique of imagining a little guru sitting on the tip of your nose observation you breath? 😉

2. Presence

Unless and until you access the consciousness frequency of presence, all relationships, and particularly intimate relationships, are deeply flawed and ultimately dysfunctional.

For love to flourish, the light of your presence needs to be strong enough so that you no longer get taken over by the thinker or the pain-body and mistake them for who you are.

To disidentify from the pain-body is to bring presence into the pain and thus transmute it. To disidentify from thinking is to be the silent watcher of your thoughts and behavior, especially the repetitive patterns of your mind and the roles played by the ego.

In the stillness of your presence, you can feel your own formless and timeless reality as the unmanifested life that animates your physical form. You can then feel the same life deep within every other human and every other creature. You look beyond the veil of form and separation. This is the realization of oneness. This is love.

Eckhart Tolle, Practicing the Power of Now, Chapter 8 – Love & Relationships